Early in February, I challenged followers to try creating a good habit. In my subsequent posts, I have been providing ideas on how to support creating a new habit. Yesterday I read something that I just have to share.
Inspiration comes when we hear, experience something that gets our heart beating, our sense of possibility and of being alive. Or it can scare the sh#t out of us. The difference in the two - our perspective. If we see the potential for injury, we have chosen fear. If we see the possibility of enjoyment, a better future, we have chosen inspiration. Sounds pretty simple, but it is very hard to chose wisely especially in the heat of the moment.
Viktor Frankl, who spent time in concentration camps as a prisoner observed the very real consequences of the choice. Those who chose to live, to aspire for the day of release and who upon that day became disillusioned often then chose death. Where those who chose to live to see a loved one, or for something bigger than the end of the suffering, often chose life again and again.
"I can! I will! I must!"
Reading Dr. Edith Egers book, "The Gift", she states, (paraphrase) "To try is to not actually commit to change. It is to give oneself an excuse. You are either doing something to change or you are not." I should... again, you are currently not doing, and you are now shaming yourself. Not helpful.
As a coach, I hear it all the time... "I can't" and my response is "Can't? or Won't?" There are so many ways one CAN try to learn something, BUT only if one stays curious. As Dr. Egers notes, and as I have written about in previous posts, CURIOSITY is an essential ingredient to growth, to change. Without curiosity in the yoga world we would say you are closed, not open, or very adeptly put - inflexible. Flexibility is not just in the body, but also in our attitude.