In my own narrative of this activity, I often go to the experience of my marriage ending. Months of not knowing what would happen, the fear of living alone, the fear of sharing my son with someone who lives in a different country. The shame of being left.
It took months, but when I was introduced to this exercise, I was steeped in gratitude. Without the end of my marriage, I would not be discovering so much about what gives ME meaning. I would not have been discovering how to create a world I really wanted. I could see the shortcomings in my relationship honestly and armed with that wisdom, move into new more powerful relationships.
As I see it? The silver linings practice is a way toward gratitude. A way toward peace and appreciation of what is. It is a way to side step the ongoing rebellion toward what I don't want.