The kids huddled around me. I had just called them in from doing the climbing activity I had given them. You see, they come to me for coaching, some once a week and some twice. They want to get better. They want to climb harder routes. I get it. I like climbing harder routes too. So I create these activities to challenge them to become better climbers. Some activities are designed to make them stronger, some to increase their recovery. Some activities are designed to increase their aerobic capacity (the ability to prevent getting pumped). Some activities are designed to challenge their climbing style making them work with technique they don't often use. And of course, every exercise should make them become mentally stronger, more aware and inspired.
So why did I call them in? First, to make them rest. They are kids and they tend not to rest very well. Second, to change up the activity. But most importantly, third, I called them in to bring awareness to the choice some were making to not actually do the activity I had asked them to do. Yes, they were climbing. But when I would ask why they didn't do some aspect of the exercise, the answer I would get, "I know, but....:"
THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!
But, take responsibility for the choice not to do the activity. Understand the consequence of that choice and see it as the choice you (or in my case, I) are making.
What I really want is to go home, sit on my sofa and not be responsible to anyone. Not even my friend. Sure I still want to climb better than I currently do too, but my desire for the pleasure of a quiet space without the need to think or hold a conversation is MORE desirable and therefore often wins out. You see, the day we have chosen for climbing is my busiest day. I move from one job to a second job. I sit in a very busy noisy room full of climbers, then I am supposed to go to a third place that day, that is also noisy and lots of people and try to enjoy myself trying to squeeze some climbing time in around the other folks there for the same purpose. My happy climbing time is first thing in the morning. My happy climbing place is outside in nature, definitely not in a gym with music blasting and a line up for routes. So when my energy gets low, it is the last place I want to go, even if it is with a good friend. So I own it. I understand my conflicting desires and I take responsibility for it.
So here is your challenge... own your desires.
What is the goal you want to achieve that you struggle to make happen? It doesn't have to be climbing or even exercise related. It could be a writing goal or a music production goal. Write it down. Write about the desire... what is inspiring you?
When is it best for you to be inspired? What conditions do you need to be creative, strong, motivated? Who do you need with you to support you? Where do you need to be to make it happen? What else do you need?
NOW... answer these questions....
What will make it hard for you to be motivated? What environment/conditions challenge your inspiration? Who challenges your ability to focus on the task? What supports are you missing?
Now that you understand... ACT. Create the space in your life to ACT with the best conditions and without the obstacles.
It doesn't need to be perfect, it needs to be good enough for you to be able to focus, to be motivated and to work.
Find the supports, the right time, the right environment. And then ACT with intention, focus and do all the failure required to lead you to the success.
Don't make excuses! Own your choice. Then remember, you fall down nine times and get back up ten.