This week I had the pleasure of enjoying lunch with two of my special Yogini friends. As we caught each other up on our most recent story of our life, One of these women asked me if I had heard of The Work, with Byron Katie. I acknowledged that I have just recently been stepping back to The Work and that I love the process so much, I have actually considered doing the training to be a facilitator.
The Work is a fairly simple 4 question process and the creation of three simple turn arounds. This process invites you to question what you are believing. I will let you find the questions and explanation of the process on The Work.com.
This morning I left the house by 7 am to walk the dogs. As I walked with them along a popular walking trail, I was putting my thoughts about the challenges I think about trying to manage my dogs. "They should listen to me," turnaround to, "I should listen to me." I immediately felt the truth of this. My pace slowed, I noticed sound around me and I felt a slowing of my heart and deepening of my breath. Not just with the dogs, but as I replayed conversations with my friends, with acquaintances, at work, I saw how I was so focused on what others thought and wanted. I saw how much I reacted to their desires, not to my own and then would feel resentment toward them. "I should listen to me." Wow, That is a very powerful thought.
This is what being open means. When my deeper self, my inquiring self, listens to my desires, my thoughts, I am open. I am able to discern whether what it wants is a skillful choice or not. My deeper self can discern the truth of what I am writing and what others say to me. Being open means I am not reacting from a superficial sense of how I want to appear. I am acting, receiving from a place of steadiness, even when what I do not like is happening.
The beauty in both these Yoginis I sat with this week is their steadiness. Often more steady than I am. And it is in their presence I feel myself become more steady and open to a deeper understanding within me. This is what makes for sangha. I am very blessed.