I listened as we discussed how to connect when we disagree. I considered my own reaction to disagreement; usually to try to fix, even when I feel attacked. I dislike the feeling of disappointing someone or upsetting someone - even if I know I am right.
Am I right? Perhaps each person is right from his/her own perspective.
The root of defence is the desire to have ones needs met. Unfortunately, when two sides feel their needs are more important than the other, the only result will be war.
Compromise is born from the recognition that everyone has needs that they would like met, as much as one desires their own needs met. And then to search for middle ground, or at the very least compassion and understanding.