The Miracle Angle

We don't always win or get the project done well, or have enough. Failure is a natural part of our life. It is an essential part of our life. Why? Because failure has the potential to make us show up better the next time around. That is the miracle angle of failure. Loss is an important part of life because it has the potential to force us to appreciate what we have - to be grateful. But this will only happen if we are willing to look for the opportunity to take some miracle view of a seemingly negative event.

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We are heading into the last week of January 2025 and I have been completely derailed in my resolutions. I have failed to be consistent with my meditation and consistent with my afternoon jaunts with my dog. I could blame the frigid weather, I could lay blame at the spontaneous nature of my work schedule, computer crashes, and regular old stand by of just stress. 

The truth is my resolutions have not been aligned with the big picture passion for me. Sometimes being in a holding pattern is a better option than burning ourselves up trying to prove we can achieve some goal that isn't really going to give us the fulfillment we seek

If you have been rocking your new years resolutions, super good job. If, like me, you haven't, no worries, the failure is there to tell you something. It is part of the process of pursuing something. The failure is there to inform your future choices, it is not a statement of your value.

Ask yourself... what is this trying to show me? 
Allow yourself time relax with a guided meditation or Nidra practice, then ask one of the following questions:

• Is it making your negative feelings more exaggerated?
• Is it creating more busy behaviour or more numbness?

If the answer to these questions is yes, then you need to change the goal or the process of pursuing the goal. 

In the climbing world of coaching, when someone fails on a project, the first thing they need to do is ask, what released first? Where did I loose attention or tension?
This question is a part of deliberate practice. It takes deliberate practice to grow or develop. The answer to this question guides the next try. Or guides the decision on whether to try again. Deliberate practice is the key to developing skill. In life, deliberate practice means asking similar questions.

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What is missing? Where do I feel the tension? What adjustment can I make to improve the situation?
​Consider what adjustments you would like to make going forward. For me, it has started with a little self care. From a place of feeling nourished and relaxed, I will be best positioned to ask the deep questions.